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MONOGAMY IS GROSS

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MONOGAMY IS GROSS

Adam Golding
May 19, 2021
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Monogamy is gross. Why should "To each their own" apply on the level of the n=2 polycule rather than to all individuals? Stop not posting about it. It's regressive to do nothing to accelerate the legalization of plural marriage. (Remember back in 2008 in

when both sides said "no" to gay marriage?) Monogamy separates children from parents. Monogamy separates grandchildren from grandparents. Monogamy is a cult. #RelationalAggression is a SIN!!!! All jealous murders are #polyphobia. Monogamy shortens relationships. The Will to Freedom will Murder Monogamy. (As we murdered the monotheistic God via the Christian Will to Truth). Monogamy is usury. Monogamy's at least a widespread and unethical as capitalism. "[H]aving exactly one partner" != Monogamy. To prevent coercive control at any cost, prevent Monogamy at any cost.

Monogamy promotes domestic abuse.

Monogamy's one way to avoid re-framing jealousy as #compersion, which merely moves the problem elsewhere--FREE BRITNEY--Monogamy is #ArtificialScarcity. Half-siblings increase genetic diversity.

Monogamy is racist.

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Arielle Friedman
Writes Analog Futures
May 27, 2022

Monogamy is a form of boundaries, which are good things that all adults should have. I don't get the hostility - is it retributive? Like, they screw us, so fuck you back?

There are enough examples historically of the oppressed becoming the oppressor, I'm seeing shades of that here

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Arielle Friedman
Writes Analog Futures
May 27, 2022

I'm curious what you'd think of Bret Weinstein and Heather Haying's chapter on the topic. They look at non-human animals, and point out that monogamous species have a far greater degree of gender equality. Male and female swans, for example, are roughly the same size, and the males are selective sexually. In "harem" species, by contrast, the males tend to be much bigger, and compete violently for the females, who are highly selective but often overpowered.

Humans are somewhere in the middle, and we can choose. I do tend to think monogamy is healthier - if we accept the premise that women are sexually hypergamous, then polyamory will result in a small number of men with many partners, and many men with no partners. This matches what I see in our society as "free love" spreads (players on one hand, incels on the other), and seems like it leads to a lot of problems. In particular, I can see the breakdown of monogamy impacting gender equality in ways that hurts both sexes.

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