Brats Are Rapey

NOTES FROM A CONSENT CULTURE

"may these serve you well with that rapey guy who came to your apartment"

[I typed these rules spontaneously last month online to a female friend who was being waay too charitable about a man who attended her home without her advance permission…]

- Consent entails obedience...

- Brats hate obedience so they hate consent

- The obedience consent entails is complete and total obedience to any boundary that counts as a 'personal' boundary

[What’s a personal boundary? Anything that satisfies these rules!]

- The obedience consent entails must be instantaneous, with no struggle, resistance, argument, or dispute

- Personal boundaries do not require justification

- Personal boundaries do not require explanation

- Personal boundaries do not require good reasons or motivations

- Personal boundaries are not negotiable

- Personal boundaries are not conditional

- Personal boundaries are not up for discussion

- What someone says when you assert a personal boundary is irrelevant to these rules

- Personal boundaries can take any tone -- no one has to set personal boundaries 'nicely' or 'politely' and they never owe a follow-up discussion

- If someone only respects personal boundaries when you're nice, they don't respect personal boundaries

- For this reason you should test men for your safety to see if their respect of your boundaries is tone-dependent

[I would add, to further clarify:

THEREFORE, ONLY SET BOUNDARIES POLITIELY WITH THOSE WHO RESPECT THEM WHEN YOU SET THEM AS IMPOLITELY AS POSSIBLE

ANYONE WHO IGNORES YOUR IMPOLITE BOUNDARIES TURNS OUT TO HAVE DESERVED THE IMPOLITENESSS

THIS is how we build an EXTREME CONSENT CULTURE.

BONUS QUESTION: What are the implications of these principles for THE CONSENT OF THE GOVERNED? Try to guess what I will say in forthcoming articles...]